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Time heals all wounds… or does it?

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Time heals all wounds… or does it?

The tongue is the strongest muscle in the body for its size and the fastest healing organ. It’s ironic that the fastest healing organ causes the deepest wounds that take the longest time to heal. Whilst the human body can heal itself over time under the right circumstances, the human mind often needs some outside help.

The mind is an amazing thing. We all have an internal recording that we make and play back to ourselves. It’s an internal voice that gives us a commentary on what we’re doing and how we’ve performed. We react to our own internal criticism/commentary based on our personality type: pessimistic, optimistic or pragmatic.

The mechanism in our brains responsible for the way we take in or filter out information is called the Reticular Activating System. It allows us to focus our attention on a few things and filter out anything that we deem unimportant. Without it we would go mad. This is the same part of the brain where we make affirmations – either positive of negative. These affirmations act as a thermostat which is then set up for us to conform to the things that we have believed – whether true or imagined. The key thing is that those beliefs are formed through repetition, trauma, or intense emotions.

Self-fulfilling prophecies:
Someone that has been continually told that they are a failure is likely to act like one unless their personality is strong enough to counteract the lie.

It is common for someone that has been abused to make negative affirmations and unless helped is likely to fall into depression and other debilitating problems.

In the same way that a broken bone if not properly set can grow out of position causing future dysfunction or a contaminated wound can turn septic, the mind of someone that has been physically or emotionally abused can also be hindered from full recovery.

 

Time

I just need some time to heal my broken wounds.

Not minutes, hours, days….but months or even years

I need to feel cared for, to forget about the anguish and pain

 

Time,

The soft trickle of precious grains that ran away.

Does anyone care? Who knows I’m here?

 

Time passes

Hope springs like the fading bleak of winter

And possibilities are bright before me

 

I’m beginning to feel loved and cared for

Consistency and help as time passes.

 

I’m loved and cared for and listened to

And strength comes over me.

(Nii Swaniker) 

 

Websites that provide help and information:
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
Women’s Aid is the key national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children

http://www.mankind.org.uk/
For male victims of domestic abuse

http://www.nspcc.org.uk/
Help for children that are being abused

http://www.childline.org.uk/
Help for children that are being bullied

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Depression/Pages/Treatment.aspx
Help treating Depression

 

 

Nat Cato
Communications Team

Every Second Counts…

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For more information: www.befriendafamily.co.uk/every-second-counts/

Every Second Counts is a campaign run by Westminster Befriend a Family (WBAF) to raise funds to provide practical help and support to disadvantaged families in Westminster who are unable to cope with the debilitating problems they are going through.

Time is money

“Time is Money!” is a phrase that was coined (excuse the pun) by Benjamin Franklin.

It means that time is valuable and if you are not using it efficiently you are losing money.

Value

Value is an interesting thing; market forces often determine how much something is worth. However, value can also be determined by the worth that an individual chooses to bestow.

There is a website called www.Peopleperhour.com that allows people to advertise their services and determine how much they want to charge. On it, you can find people from the same professions charging from as little as £8 an hour to £300 for the same service – with little discernable difference in what’s on offer.

In our society, it is so easy to treat people the same way that we treat things by placing a value on them according to their jobs or net worth. If the President of the United States had to have a life-saving blood transfusion and the only suitable donor happened to be a beggar, he would still have the transfusion. On any other day the president probably would not have given the beggar a second look. It is the same red blood that flows through our veins – princes and paupers alike, and sickness and problems have a way of resetting our value systems.

To some people that we work with “time” is not money – it is life. To them, every day, every hour, every minute and every second is not accounted for in terms of profit and loss but in terms of survival or loss. To them, time can mean the difference between having a home or being made homeless, having enough food or having to go without.

At Christmas, we had a party for the families that we work with. What made it very special was the various companies that chose to add value to it by allowing their employees to organise it, provide entertainment, and presents for the children.

The time that those employees sacrificed translated into special memories of warmth, fun, joy, happiness and presents for the children of vulnerable families in Westminster. And judging by the photos, those employees also had a good time.

You see, time does not have to be money – although, money certainly helps. However, it can also be your expertise, your advice, a sponsored event, or donated goods. Time has whatever value we chose to place on it.

A special thank you to Experian, British Land, Land Securities, John Lewis and the Volunteer Centre for showing that time can be more than money.

 

Nat Cato
Communications Team

 

Every Second Counts…

Please support us by making a text donation.

Your text donations are free! Your network provider won’t charge you for them.
100% of your donation will be used to keep our Family Services running.

Text:  Time01  £2 / £5 / £10 to 70070

to donate now!

 

 

For more information: www.befriendafamily.co.uk/every-second-counts/

Every Second Counts is a campaign run by Westminster Befriend a Family (WBAF) to raise funds to provide practical help and support to disadvantaged families in Westminster who are unable to cope with the debilitating problems they are going through.

 

 

Every Second Counts…

 

In 2001 I was admitted to hospital: a black man, turning white, throwing up in green, and later hallucinating in orange. 

Hitting the rewind button <<

Day 1
I had eaten a lukewarm beef pie the day before and was feeling a growing stomach discomfort.

Day 2
Amidst the stomach pain and perspiration, I was woken in the night by the most intense pain I had felt in my life.  I assumed the foetal position and suddenly felt a massive explosion in my stomach.  I cried out accordingly. *(*UIIIIIIIIIHAAArrrhhhhhhhhh…ow!

Day 3
In a typical bloke’ish way, I assessed the situation, put it down to a bad experience, and was ready to move on – no more beef pies for me then!

Day 4
I wasn’t in pain but was feeling weak, uncomfortable. At 9pm I started to throw up – in green.  I began to really panic. Unable to get through to my GP, I contacted NHS Direct who after hearing my symptoms told me to call an ambulance – IMMEDIATELY!

Five hours later, I was lying in a hospital corridor on a trolley waiting to be examined by a doctor – who had just put on ‘the old Marigold Gloves.’ It turned out that my appendix had burst and my woeful assessment of the symptoms could have led to my early demise. The toxins that were in my appendix had infected my abdomen: I had peritonitis (the cause of my colourful regurgitate) and could so easily have died.

Symptoms
Just like an inflamed appendix a lot of the problems that are responsible for breaking families up, lie beneath the surface and are only brought to light when they display symptoms. If they are wrongly diagnosed, ignored, or left to chance, the inflamed situation may explode leaving behind fatalities.

When bad things happen to us, if there is no one around to help us understand or help us through the situation we try to make sense of it ourselves. If we misread the situation or are preconditioned with an inaccurate assessment of our situation, or of ourselves, we can make wrong decisions that can have painful or life-changing circumstances.

At Westminster Befriend a Family we put on our ‘marigold gloves’ and attend to those who are shunted into one of life’s corridors. We help families that are going through stressful and often debilitating situations: homelessness, abuse, depression, and poverty.

For those who are in desperate need and unable to help themselves – Every Second Counts…

Please support us by making a text donation.

Your text donations are free! Your network provider won’t charge you for them.
100% of your donation will be used to keep our Family Services running.

Text:  Time01  £2 / £5 / £10 to 70070

to donate now!

 

Thank you

Nat Cato
Communications Team

 

For more information: www.befriendafamily.co.uk/every-second-counts/

Every Second Counts is a campaign run by Westminster Befriend a Family (WBAF) to raise funds to provide practical help and support to disadvantaged families in Westminster who are unable to cope with the debilitating problems they are going through.