Never let yesterday use up today
Whether we realise it or not we are all time travellers. The time machine is our mind and in any given moment we are either in the past, the present, or the future.
Where do you spend your time?
Neither of these places is good or bad of themselves but what determines the usefulness of the visit is what we do with our time when we are there.
We usually go there to visit our regrets or achievements.
When we are here we are enjoying or enduring life, waiting for or preparing for the future. Here we have the opportunity to learn new things, learn from past mistakes or relive them.
We visit the future when we dwell on our dreams and aspirations, or our fears.
The paradox of time travel
The paradox of time travel is that the same matter from two different periods of time cannot exist in the same space in the same time, or they would cancel each other out. In other words you couldn’t physically go back or forward in time and pay a visit to yourself without cancelling yourself out. And yet, when we travel to the past or the future (in our memories or our imagination) we visit ourselves all the time but with different results. Instead of being cancelled out by the past you or the future you, the present you is reinforced either positively or negatively by them. We follow what we dwell on. If we dwell on failure we expect it, we entertain it, and we reap it.
Graves or Shrines?
A grave is any place that becomes the receptacle of what is dead, lost, or past.
A shrine is a site hallowed by association with a revered person or object or with an important event
In life we all make mistakes, and we all have successes no matter how minor. The important thing is when we travel back to the past to visit our failures or achievements we shouldn’t dwell on them but learn from them. If we keep visiting a mistake without learning from it, it will be our rut and eventually our grave. Likewise if we visit a past achievement without aiming to build on it, it will turn into a shrine. Neither grave nor shrine can help us to develop. They both prevent us from focussing on the present and minimise our achievements in the future.
The Butterfly effect
The Butterfly effect is a principle in ‘chaos theory’ which states that in any dynamic system, small initial differences may lead to large unforeseen consequences over time. In other words we cannot predict with accuracy what might have happened if we had taken a course of action that we are currently beating ourselves up for. If we had done things differently it might have started off a chain of events that we didn’t think about, which indirectly would have changed the course of our future – for better or for worse. We’ll never know.
The golden rule of time travel is “never alter the past, as it may create an alternate reality.” In that alternate reality there’s no guarantee that you or the people that you presently know would still exist or that you’d be the same person with the same friends. The past is past. We can only affect the future by changing the present. So if you need to ask someone for forgiveness – do it. If you need to forgive yourself – do it. But push the button and move on. Don’t let a rut turn into a grave.
Dreams or Schemes?
A dream is a condition or achievement that is longed for; an aspiration.
A scheme is a systematic plan of action.
Many people concentrate on their dreams but fail to sow into them with schemes. In order for a dream to materialise we have to be either planting the seed or watering it in the present.
Dreamers (in the worst sense of the word) hang around waiting for the ‘right time,’ and do very little to be ready for it, whilst schemers (in the better sense of the word) are busy either preparing for or creating the ‘right time.’ Dreamers have ideas and hopes whilst schemers have plans, timelines and solutions. No amount of worrying can prevent our fears from coming true. What lies between us and their fulfilment is the present and what we do with it.
Pay now and play later, or play now and pay later
What we do NOW decides how far we go in life. Success is a journey, a way of living not an event or a destination that we eventually arrive at.
Success starts now!
Successful people make important decisions once and manage them daily.
Write a list of things to do and prioritise it with the most important things at the top. Every day, systematically go through your list ticking off things you have done. At the end of the day review how you got on and see if there are any ways you can improve on your performance. Do you need to add to the list or refine it?
You are the best judge of what needs to go on your list and the priorities, as you know where you want your destination to be. But some people have the following things on their list:
Family, relationships, income, faith, health…
Where you’ve been determines where you are now
So, have you been visiting graves, shrines, dreams, or schemes?
Some inspirational quotes:
“Multitudes of people have failed to live for today. They have spent their lives reaching for the future. What they have in their grasp today they have missed entirely, because only the future has intrigued them . . . the first thing they knew the future became the past. Hoping for a good future without investing in today is like a farmer waiting for a crop without ever planting any seed.” (Pulitzer prize-winning journalist William White)
“When you make a mistake, don’t look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.”
“At times I wish I could change the past, but sometimes the past changes you.”
“You are born, you die, and in between you make a lot of mistakes.”
“Don’t put a period where God put a comma.”
“Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.”
“ The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his time when it comes.”
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