The tongue is the strongest muscle in the body for its size and the fastest healing organ. It’s ironic that the fastest healing organ causes the deepest wounds that take the longest time to heal. Whilst the human body can heal itself over time under the right circumstances, the human mind often needs some outside help.

The mind is an amazing thing. We all have an internal recording that we make and play back to ourselves. It’s an internal voice that gives us a commentary on what we’re doing and how we’ve performed. We react to our own internal criticism/commentary based on our personality type: pessimistic, optimistic or pragmatic.

The mechanism in our brains responsible for the way we take in or filter out information is called the Reticular Activating System. It allows us to focus our attention on a few things and filter out anything that we deem unimportant. Without it we would go mad. This is the same part of the brain where we make affirmations – either positive of negative. These affirmations act as a thermostat which is then set up for us to conform to the things that we have believed – whether true or imagined. The key thing is that those beliefs are formed through repetition, trauma, or intense emotions.

Self-fulfilling prophecies:
Someone that has been continually told that they are a failure is likely to act like one unless their personality is strong enough to counteract the lie.

It is common for someone that has been abused to make negative affirmations and unless helped is likely to fall into depression and other debilitating problems.

In the same way that a broken bone if not properly set can grow out of position causing future dysfunction or a contaminated wound can turn septic, the mind of someone that has been physically or emotionally abused can also be hindered from full recovery.



I just need some time to heal my broken wounds.

Not minutes, hours, days….but months or even years

I need to feel cared for, to forget about the anguish and pain



The soft trickle of precious grains that ran away.

Does anyone care? Who knows I’m here?


Time passes

Hope springs like the fading bleak of winter

And possibilities are bright before me


I’m beginning to feel loved and cared for

Consistency and help as time passes.


I’m loved and cared for and listened to

And strength comes over me.

(Nii Swaniker) 


Websites that provide help and information:
Women’s Aid is the key national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children
For male victims of domestic abuse
Help for children that are being abused
Help for children that are being bullied
Help treating Depression



Nat Cato
Communications Team

Every Second Counts…

Please support us by making a text donation.

Your text donations are free! Your network provider won’t charge you for them.
100% of your donation will be used to keep our Family Services running.

Text:  Time01  £2 / £5 / £10 to 70070

to donate now!


For more information:

Every Second Counts is a campaign run by Westminster Befriend a Family (WBAF) to raise funds to provide practical help and support to disadvantaged families in Westminster who are unable to cope with the debilitating problems they are going through.